About Psychologistonline.info
About Me
- Born in 1973 in Budapest
- Studied psychology at ELTE University, Hungary
- Have been practising since 2006.
- Decade of experience in online consultation with clients in Britain, Germany, Austria, Norway, the US, Korea and Hungary.
- Working languages: English, Hungarian.
My Experience
Intimate partner violence, domestic violence
I worked with and learned from women's rights organisations. I follow the literature in the field. I am member of the Stop Male Violence Project, which engages men that want to do something against violence against women at a societal level or in their lives. I provide training on intimate partner violence for professionals and help victims get out of abusive relationships. I am a member of a working group for the city of Budapest to create a city-wide protocol for domestic violence cases.
Sexual violence
A large number of women and quite a few men need to accept that the perpetrator and not the victim should be ashamed, and to live a life not determined by the trauma (even if you cannot undo the violence).
Childhood abuse, neglect
This can consist of forms already acknowledged by society (e.g. sexual or physical violence), or forms that are more difficult to pinpoint (e.g. emotional or verbal abuse).
School as a source of trauma
Bullying or violence by teachers are two of the possible harming, alienating effects of school.
Alienated work, bullying at work
These problems require personal and collective solutions at the same time.
Psychology recognized in the 1990s that long lasting, low intensity traumatizing processes can cause harm that is difficult to pinpoint or is not acknowledged by society.
Lesbian, gay or bisexual interests
I started volunteering for non-governmental organizations working on the social acceptance and equality of LGBT (at that time the list finished with T) people at the age of nineteen. Before I finished psychology I had worked as a volunteer consultant in this area. It continues to be important for me to help people accept their own or their loved one’s sexuality.
Professional crises, mid-life or other life crises
Crises about choosing or modifying one’s profession, ending relationships, children growing up, diminished sexual interest, flailing health, etc.
Bad mood, being anxious
In cases of panicking, sleeping difficulties, constant unhappiness or similar problems it is important to find and change the mechanisms that lead to these symptoms. I do not offer anti-depressants, anxiety reducing or other psychiatric drugs for mid-term pain reduction but suggest primarily exercise and relaxation.
Porn
There is practically no man who has never met pornography and whose sexual life has not been negatively influenced by it. Similarly more and more women’s body image and self-worth is determined by advertisements and a public space that are increasingly pornographic.
Addiction
In the case of alcohol, drug or other addiction, it is necessary to establish practices that contribute to our bodily and mental well-being and can satisfy the needs behind the addiction but do not come with the negative effects of addiction. In addition, these practices should help overcome withdrawal.
Self-esteem
Parents without proper childrearing methods, unrealistic social expectations, traumas, abusive partners or bosses can easily harm anyone’s self-esteem, which, of course, affects self-actualization.
Sexual interest in children
People struggling with this problem need help to remain abstinent and find excitement in relationships based on equality.
My office in the center of Budapest near Oktogon
